Saturday, 13 June 2009


In my last blog I was talking about STDs and teenage pregnancies.

Maybe the answer to the why question is the truth that sex is now a commodity, and like alcohol, an addiction.

Without respect for your mind and body there is always going to be this silly way of thinking and behaving.

Of course it is not new. Modern teenagers did not become the first to get drunk, cause mayhem, inflict bodily harm and have unprotected sex with and against each other. It is the social attitude of acceptance to such behaviour that has changed.

This attitude will change in time also, as such behaviour causes health and social policing costs to rise. Once that happens then attitude moves within a society and crass behaviour will be seen as juvenile and not cool and exciting or just a case of adolescence high jinks.

Sex is fun, so is drinking, but irresponsibility when participating in such activities causes so much damage and destruction, with society in general paying for the outcome of such irresponsible behaviour.

Of course it is not just teenagers who behave this way. Twenty, thirty and forty year olds, trying to be "young" again, as if the only proof of youth is sex, misconduct and irresponsible behaviour, are just as stupid in their outlook.

Am I being unfair in saying that people are being stupid. I don't think so. Every thing is permitted but not every thing is good for us! Things are not stupid, people are. The cost far outweighs the benefit. If such action was to be cost-ed out to the individuals involved - health and social costs - then there would be a backlash at first, but maybe there will be thought before action. Thought before self harming and the harming of others. And maybe parents, schools, colleges, universities and employers would change their attitude to turning a blind eye or worse condoning such behaviour as a "jolly jape" or just "youthful expression". One can but hope.

Of course not all teenage mums, single or not, are stupid or irresponsible, and not all teenagers having multi-sexual partners get STDs. And unlike some folks on some blogs I do not want to go back to a time of stigma (for the young mother and the baby) and back-street abortions. And I do not think that young girls get pregnant to get a council house - oh please someone do the research! But I do think that a lot of the young girls who have babies do so because they need unconditional love in their lives. And that is sad. There is no such thing as unconditional love from a new born, nor from many people sadly. There are always conditions. You have to bond with the baby, toddler, child, teenager, adult. For a baby is only a baby for a very short amount of time. The ah factor soon wears thin. You have to give total attention and love and commitment to that child. And many, if not most, young mums do.

The thing that saddens me most is that society takes two options. Blame the girls or blame 'society'. Society being the government, social services, the educational system - I've said all this before. There is no blame, just a attitude deficiency. Changing one's attitude is the hardest thing to do. Rant Over.

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